The Demon Of Jealousy
Jealousy is much worse than hunger;
jealousy is the hunger of the mind.
Miguel de Unamuno
The young disciple of a wise philosopher arrives at his house and says to him:
– Master, a friend spoke maliciously about you …
– Wait, the philosopher interrupts, did you pass the thing you want to tell me through the three filters?
– The three filters ?, asks his disciple.
– Yes. The first is the truth. Are you sure what you want to tell me is absolutely certain?
– No. I just heard from a few neighbors.
– So, did you at least pass these words through the second filter, kindness ? Can what you want to tell me be beneficial for someone?
– No, not really, on the contrary …
– Ah, so we come to the last filter, the need ! Is it really necessary to let me know this thing that worries you so much?
– Actually, no.
– So, said the wise man, smiling, if it is neither true, nor good, nor necessary, let us bury this thing in oblivion.
Human relations would be much healthier if, before repeating the things that we have been told or heard, we pass them through the filters of the, the and the.
Using these filters instead of gossiping is not easy for anyone.
Some are absolutely unable to resist the temptation to criticize. What is behind all this? The darkness of jealousy, and its terrifying cave.
Jealousy is the deadliest virus that can exist. It ruins relationships, makes feelings, emotions and people disappear.
Jealousy is really dangerous, because no one is safe from falling into its clutches. It is everywhere, so much so that it has become a real pandemic.
It therefore seems essential to be vaccinated against jealousy, in order to no longer feel it, but also to no longer suffer from it.
From the contamination of jealousy flow bad language and gossip, hiding a terrible demon who does not feel sorry for our fate. This demon is the lack of self-esteem and self-esteem.
The most effective weapon that jealousy has to attack us is its power to
This comparison is far from welcome, because the fact of comparing yourself is a way of exposing yourself directly to the image of your frustrations, which the mirror sends back to us with a magnifying effect.
In other words, the things that we covet destroy us and demonize the realization of our desires, pushing us to hide the virtues that we have always contained in us and which belong to us.
On the other hand, jealousy brings out the darker side of the human being.
To be jealous is not only to lack self-esteem, it is also to embody one of the most embarrassing human truths: the pain that one can feel in front of the talents and successes of others.
It is much easier to channel your frustration with judgment and criticism than to recognize your inferiority complex .
Often, one wonders why a person is jealous, and at the same time, one underestimates the burden that this implies for the jealous person, who then lives in real suffering taking him away from reality and giving birth to him. distrust.
Sometimes they don’t even know who their friends are and who their enemies are, or who they can trust.
They can also come to wonder if their success is theirs, or if, as the bad tongues say , it is ungrateful.
The victorious feeling they may then have felt at the start can turn into constant pain coupled with a lack of confidence.
We cannot eradicate jealousy, but on the other hand, we can reduce it. To begin with, let’s run our thoughts and actions through the filters we’ve discovered in this article (truth, goodness, and need), strengthen our self-esteem, assert our identity, and live in such a way that l he urge to take a malicious interest in the successes and failures of others does not come to us.
And, of course, let’s use the energy generated by jealousy to foment these successes that must be nurtured.
In order to overcome the pain that one can feel when one is “the jealous person”, one must use the lessons learned from one’s past experiences.
You can’t start building a house by tackling the roof in the first place. We know that certain events will provoke comparisons, and that our greatness can bring out the smallness of others, and vice versa.
Thus, we can allow ourselves to savor our virtues in a different way, by showing others that we are capable of succeeding, thus pushing them to try to do the same, and offering them our help.
Because, if greed and jealousy destroy us, admiration builds us.
