Pride, This Great Generator Of Conflicts
As in all concepts, or like everything in life, there are never any definitive categories or absolute definitions.
This is what happens with pride, which can be used either for good or for bad.
In psychology, we have defined two types of pride, the positive and the negative. Positive pride is called self-esteem and self-confidence, and negative pride is called self-esteem or pride.
The first is necessary to feel secure and to have a balanced life, to value yourself properly, to situate yourself in life and to be proud of it. It is absolutely healthy quality.
The second pride, that which distances us from the world, is the greatest generator of conflicts that we can have in our life.
The negative side of pride is defined as the excess of esteem for oneself and for one’s own merits, and the person then believes themselves to be superior to others.
This type of pride makes you unable to recognize and admit your own mistakes and highlights the manifest lack of humility.
Humility, a quality contrary to pride, is what allows us to adopt an open, flexible and receptive attitude so that we can learn what we did not yet know.
Proud people communicate their mental complaints a lot because of their oversized egos. They complain about people, situations, time, etc. of the country. And that’s what makes them jump from one conflict to another.
When pride turns into smugness
The word sufficiency comes from the Latin superbĭa and it is a feeling of valuing oneself above others, of over-valuing the self in relation to others.
It is a feeling of superiority that boils down to bragging about qualities or your own ideas and despising those of others. Sufficiency is a proud attitude that is defined by the daring of the person to be puffed up with pride.
Sufficiency, which makes us feel superior every time we compare ourselves to someone, highlights an inferiority complex.
Hence the arrogance with which we always try to demonstrate that we are right. We also use vanity, being ostentatious about our merits, our qualities and our achievements.
These people can be very ideologically intolerant, clinging to a unique posture and not tolerating any input from others.
Their capacity for recognition is very low, and they show great resistance when it comes to asking for forgiveness, as well as to personal change: they don’t think about it, because they think they are doing everything right.
They present an emotional rigidity, an emotional distance. It is very difficult for them to forget an offense. These characteristics block interpersonal relationships.
Honesty to destroy pride
Honesty can be very painful at first, but very liberating in the medium term. It allows us to face the truth about who we are and how we communicate with our inner world. This is where the path to emotional well-being begins.
First of all, it decreases the fear of knowing ourselves and facing our dark side. It prevents us from continuing to wear a mask to please others and be accepted by our social and professional surroundings.
This quality also prevents us from putting the dust of our emotional conflicts under the carpet.
Honesty gives us the strength to ask ourselves questions, to identify the falsehood and the lies that threaten us, as temptations in our interior.
Insofar as honesty is integrated into our being, our pride disappears little by little because he does not have to constantly present his papers, in order to give the image of someone that we are not.
