The Silent Deterioration That Makes Us Pretend All Is Well

No. Not everything has a solution in life. You shouldn’t try to explain everything or wear a huge smile every day.

However, many people prefer to pretend rather than admit that they are trapped in silent deterioration.

Feigning happiness in order to be accepted is a big mistake we all make on a regular basis. There are times in life when it just doesn’t make sense to fake wellness at all.

Whether it is for better or for worse, let us have the courage not to smile when we do not want to and try not to give in to the temptation to “try to please everyone” in order to stop the exhaustion and emotional wear and tear generated by the fear that no one is interested in us.

This is why it is important that we sometimes allow ourselves not to be well, because in this way we will not pretend to be always comfortable and we will not live continuously in annoyance.

To pretend is painful, and sadness and unease are synonymous with fragility.

The emotional wear and tear of pretending: the forces that do not return

Data shows that 8 out of 10 people who are sad pretend to be fine, but unfortunately we find it late.

This translates into a silent deterioration that plunges us into great emotional wear and tear and a spiral that absorbs us and presses hard on what is called the soul.

That is, the emotions and feelings that at first were in us for good, end up blackening due to our inability to give them their freedom and experience them as we should.

As a result, we end up tossed around and eaten up by our constant attempts to silence the voice of evil.

So the key is in accepting all of our characteristics and not stubbornly deceiving our conscience.

This perspective will help us unite in the fight against pain such as depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, hopelessness, insomnia, excessive irritability etc.

The key to resilience is acceptance

The most important learning in our life is the one we achieve when we force ourselves to know ourselves, accept ourselves and love ourselves.

Here, the order of the factors alters the result so we cannot love ourselves without first accepting ourselves, and we cannot accept ourselves without knowing each other first.

To reach the realization of this first stage of personal development, we must unlearn precisely what we are describing here, but it is only in this way that we will be able to let go of the beliefs and manipulations that subject us, year after year, day by day. after day and minute after minute.

That is to say, to look at life without anesthesia and without pressure, it is important to change the slope of the hill, because only then will we be able to deal with the problem from other perspectives.

So every day when we get up we have to pay attention to the glasses we choose to read the world.

In order not to distort things, the best is to put on these transparent glasses which adjust our vision from near and far.

It does not mean anything other than to put aside the prejudices and beliefs that make us twist things.

Because the importance of internal dialogue is something that is too often forgotten.

This is why it is essential to be silent with ourselves and to realize that the only way to achieve well-being is to respect ourselves and to stop pretending, with or without harm. to be.