Vengeance: Eye For An Eye And The World Will End Up Blind

Gandhi said: “Eye for an eye and the world will end up blind”. With nonviolence as his watchword, he would utter this sentence in search of ears willing to listen to him and to understand his message. His warning on revenge is simple to understand but difficult to apply.

We feel the desire for revenge when we have been hurt deeply. When someone we love and appreciate harms us, an emotional scar appears, which burns with intense heat, begging to be extinguished, causing another wound in the abuser’s heart. .

When faced with a deep emotional hurt, we may feel the need to cause another similar or even greater hurt than the one they caused in us at the beginning.

Immediate satisfaction, permanent consequences

Revenge is a failed attempt to balance the scales because, even if one makes infinite adjustments, it will always be out of balance. The injured person will always feel inferior, under the one who caused the injury, and will therefore try to hurt to regain his initial position of balance or achieve superiority.

The first emotion that appears when we retaliate is the satisfaction and the feeling that everything has rebalanced again. But, this feeling quickly fades to give way to feelings of guilt and remorse. The feeling of emptiness can also arise, such as when we finish a large project, if the time and resources that we have mobilized to plan and execute this revenge are plentiful.

In cases where there is no remorse after revenge, the scales also fail to balance. The consequences of revenge endure and its effects may appear later, when the desire to do harm has subsided and the sadness of having hurt arises.

It is impossible to predict the future and know who we will need on our side. Maybe that person you want to hurt today will be important in your life again. Remember that feelings of revenge go away, but the hurt you cause because of that feeling can be deep and permanent.

Revenge of the Never

When one person opens the first page of the Revenge Book and the other continues the story, it is difficult for the story not to take a crescendo slope to the book’s climax – and critical – point. The intensity of each other’s actions tend to increase as the chapters of the story follow one another.

Revenge is found in the land of Never Again, where we stay young, where there are no rules, no responsibilities.

When a problem arises between two or more people, there are several alternatives: flee, attack or solve it. In the case of revenge, the alternative chosen is that of attack. If both people decide to use this same strategy, there will be an escalation of conflict, which will escalate until one of the two parties decides that in this fight it will have lost too much, and will stop the conflict. escalation.

The world lacks compassion and has too much honor

In the culture of honor, where the important thing is not the damage caused but the repaired reputation, relationships are set on fire by burning people. Fueling revenge with attacks only rekindles the flame of hatred. Putting out the fire is only the first step in making something emerge from the ashes.

There is no justice in revenge, nor reparation in attack.

Responding to pain with pain will not change the situation or do you any good. Most of the time, being brave doesn’t mean responding louder, but putting yourself in the shoes of the person who hurt you and deciding that you don’t want someone else to relive that pain.

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